JACQUELINE GREEN COUNSELLING

ABOUT ME

Hi, I’m Jacqueline.

Originally from Wales and now living on the East Coast of Scotland, I’m an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist working with young people and adults.

I offer counselling online, in person through Walk & Talk therapy outdoors in nature.

Counselling with me is a deeply personal experience.

I often work with people who are going through, or have been through, big life changes that shake their sense of who they are. My role is to help you reconnect to yourself, steady your footing, and build confidence and trust in your own way forward.

Although I work with all kinds of emotional challenges, some areas I specialise in include:

Life transitions and self-reflection – times when something shifts - children leaving home, a bereavement, a career change, moving house, becoming a parent, friendship or relationship endings, or even quieter moments of reflection that leave you questioning your identity, or what you want next in life.
Adolescence and young adulthood – Supporting young people to manage anxiety, pressures from school or social life, and the struggle of figuring out who they are becoming.
Trauma and loss – Helping you gently process painful experiences so they no longer control your present.
Relationships and family breakdown – Working through conflict, disconnection, or separation, and helping you find healthier ways of relating to yourself and others.

I am trauma-informed and somatically experienced, which means I don’t just focus on talking therapy but also on the way experiences live in the body.

Often, stress, depression, fear, or grief show up in the body. By gently noticing and working with these embodied feelings, it becomes possible to release what has been carried for too long, creating deeper healing and lasting change.

I’m a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP), with over 15 years’ experience in the mental health field. My background includes working in schools, the NHS, charities, and private practice. I am also a qualified clinical supervisor, supporting other counsellors in their work.

I am fully insured, registered with the ICO, and committed to ongoing supervision and professional development.

That’s because healing isn’t just about your thoughts. It’s about your whole self.

As a counsellor, I bring all of you into the room…. your mind, your body, your emotions, your nervous system, even the parts you try to push away.

✨ Sometimes that means slowing down and noticing the tightness in your chest as you talk. Or the lump in your throat. Allowing something to come up and take up space after possibly years of pushing things down.
✨ Sometimes it’s giving words to feelings you’ve kept hidden.
✨ Other times it’s simply sitting together in silence/ grief/ confusion as you experience your body and mind coming together - so you don’t have to carry it alone.

My approach in therapy isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about creating space where your mind and body can finally work together, so change feels possible.

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I see you…

👀 Finishing work late to tick off the “last task,” even though your body is screaming for a break.
👀 Running to catch the early train, already exhausted before the day has begun.
👀 Getting the kids dressed, fed, and out the door in their best gear, while you barely managed breakfast or water for yourself.
👀 Smiling through meetings or social chats while your mind is swirling with unfinished to-dos.
👀 Comparing yourself to everyone else’s highlights reel, wondering why you can’t “do it all.”
👀 Trying to appear fine while inside you want to scream.
👀 Running from task to task when all your body needs is to slow down.

You’re carrying a lot, and it’s not small.
But noticing it is the first step toward giving yourself the care, pause, and support you deserve.

You don’t have to keep proving yourself to anyone - you just have to show up for yourself.

I know how hard it is to change lifetime habits, but I’m here to help you learn how.
Reach out if you’re ready to change how you show up!

Send this to someone who needs that friendly (blunt!!!!) reminder….. or save for a reminder when you need it 😏

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Sometimes, you look like everything is fine on the outside.
You’re keeping it together, smiling, getting through the day.

But inside, you may be carrying stress, heavy emotions, grief or trauma, sadness, or invisible struggles that no one else sees.

That’s not a weakness. It’s nothing to fear.
It’s a signal…. showing you what matters, what needs attention, and what you haven’t given space to yet.

Making space for those feelings is powerful.
In therapy, it might look like:

⛈️ Talking honestly about what’s weighing on you.
🌧️ Listening to your body, tuning in and noticing tension, tightness, or discomfort.
🌦️ Validating your feelings, instead of judging them. Compassion goes a long way to healing!
⛅️ Setting boundaries in your own body and practising what you need to come back to safety.

When you start noticing and acknowledging these struggles, and I mean really allowing them to be there fully, it can help you make sense of things, release some of the weight, and see where you’ve got real strength.

It doesn’t have to be perfect or happen all at once….. you’re just learning to be fully yourself. Bit by bit. And that’s enough.

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Every now and then I take a little moment to consider what is the same, and what’s changed.

My somatic therapy and trauma informed expertise have been and continue to be integrated into the way I work.
And I think that needs a little moment.

Your body holds the story.
Your entire body, not just your brain!
I believe that so much of what we experience - happiness, joy, stress, grief, and trauma…. is held not just in our minds, but in our bodies. We are entwined and just one system after all!

That’s why my somatic and trauma-informed approach isn’t just an add-on; it’s the foundation of my practice.

In your sessions with me, whether we’re online or on a Walk & Talk session, we’ll create space for those physical feelings as well as the thought patterns.
It could be noticing a lump in your throat when you talk about loss - or feeling your shoulders relax as you walk - or noticing the your jaw unclench as we soften and validate your story - or noticing your breath on a cold winter walk as we talk about the family dinner you had on the weekend - or the anxious energy exuding from a young persons fidgety movements.

We’ll use these body sensations, along with traditional talking therapy, as a compass, gently guiding you toward a deeper understanding of yourself and helping you find a new sense of peace and wholeness.

This is about more than just comfort in conversation; it’s a journey back to yourself or towards your new sense of self.

If you’re ready to show up for yourself, I’m here and you’ve got this!

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Lately I’ve been thinking about how much we carry beneath the surface of “functioning.” From the outside, life looks fine….
we’re working, showing up, keeping things moving.
But inside, there can be layers of exhaustion, worry, or feelings we’ve pushed down just to get through.

That’s why movement matters.
When we walk, we’re not only moving forward physically, we’re giving our bodies a chance to release what’s been stored away.
Step by step, the rhythm can soften what feels stuck, and often the words come more easily than they do sitting across a room.

This is the heart of my walk and talk therapy. It offers a gentle pause from the rush of daily life, and a way to reconnect with yourself in motion and in nature.

So I wonder….. if you had the chance to walk and sit here beside me, with the sea stretching out in front of us……

……what would you want to share?

Reach out if this connects for you. J x

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When life gets busy, it’s so easy to feel pulled in every direction - work, family, responsibilities, expectations.
We keep going, but somewhere along the way we lose touch with ourselves. Does this resonate with you?

Anchoring is about finding those small, steadying moments that bring you back to yourself.
It doesn’t have to be big or perfect…. sometimes it’s sitting with your morning coffee before you check your phone, a walk where you notice the air, resting your body up against a wall, taking a stretch when you’re rushing around, or the simple act of breathing deeply before a hard conversation.

This month I’ve been sharing more about anchoring on my stories, and I’ve put together a sheet full of real-life and suggested ways to practise anchoring. I asked everyone to share what they do so it’s not a list of clichés - it’s practical, simple, and drawn from what really helps people in everyday life.

💌 If you’d like a copy, just drop me your email address (DM or reply to my story) and I’ll send it to you.

And I’d love to know…… what’s one thing that brings you back to yourself when everything feels a little unsteady?

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This month I’m focusing my stories on anchoring and why it matters more than ever.

Because so many of us are moving through our days on autopilot……juggling work deadlines, endless notifications, family needs, the pressure to “keep up.”
Burnt out, overstimulated, constantly “on.”
It’s no wonder the smallest thing like a sharp email, a sleepless night or a child’s meltdown can feel like the final rock that tips us over.

That’s why I love the image of these stacked stones. They’re just like us.
🌪️ The overthinking at 3am.
🌪️ The overwhelm of a to-do list that never ends.
🌪️ The disconnection when you can’t even hear your own thoughts.
🌪️ The overstimulation of constant noise, demands, and comparison.

It’s a lot to balance.
And yet, even when everything on top feels shaky, there’s still a foundation beneath it all. Something steady.
Something we can return to.

That’s what anchoring is about.
Remembering that under the noise and the rush, there is a core part of you that can hold. Learning how to come back to it - in small, everyday ways.

For some, that anchor is:
🚶‍♂️a quiet walk without your phone or
🏡🫖 standing barefoot in the garden with a cup of tea or
🌊 letting the sea wash over your feet at the end of the day.
It doesn’t have to be grand. It just has to be yours.

✨ I’ll continue sharing more this month about anchoring and why it matters, and how you can weave it into your everyday life.

For now, I’d love to know: what helps you feel anchored when everything else feels unsteady?
Let me know by commenting on this below 👇or on my stories.
I’ll be compiling a huge list over the next two weeks and I’ll send it over to anyone who wants it! Sometimes we can’t think up ideas or imagine what anchoring could look like so having a list of real life and relatable examples can be so helpful ☺️

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Now that September is here - you’ll see lots of messages online from everyone and anyone, about slowing down, recharging in the colder months, grounding and giving yourself permission to hibernate - especially as A/W is on the horizon.

I myself am a seasonal person myself - what that means for me is that my life can look differently depending on the season.
Hobbies, how I spend my time, my energy - everything shifts and I lean into the opportunities that each season brings me!

So before the season moves into the depths of Autumn and I naturally slow down, I notice that my life is still full just now, busy, and a little all over the place. Is yours?

So this month, I want to explore Anchoring - finding those tiny, steady moments that help us feel calm and present even when life is busy. It might be a deep breath, noticing the colours of the world around you, or a mindful sip of tea. Small, simple things, but they make a difference.

What does life look like for you this month?
Busy, stretched, excited, a bit unsettled? If so, you’re in the right place!!

Practising these little anchors now can give us tools to carry into the run-up to the darker months - and maybe even make the transition a little gentler.

Over the coming weeks, I’ll be sharing simple, practical ways to anchor yourself, and I’d love for you to follow along, especially on my stories….. 🌿 Let’s see if we can find calm in the little moments together.

Who’s here with me? 🙋‍♀️🙋🏻

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I’ve just moved house recently, and I’ll be honest, it knocked me sideways.

On paper, it’s “just moving.”
A list of tasks: pack boxes, change addresses, figure out where the mugs live in the new kitchen (fyi I haven’t even done this yet!).
But underneath, it’s so much more than that.

The house you leave behind isn’t just bricks. It’s where your routines happened on autopilot.
Where you knew which floorboards creaked and which window let in the last of the evening sun.
It’s where the invisible threads of your daily life lived.

And when you move, all of that unravels. You lose the muscle memory of your own life. You reach for the cupboard that doesn’t exist anymore.

You feel unsettled, because you’re not just in a new space, you’re in between versions of yourself.

This is why moving can feel so derailing.
It messes with your sense of ground, your identity, even your nervous system.
Because home isn’t just where you live.
It’s where you orient yourself.
And rebuilding that takes time.

So if you’ve ever moved and wondered why you felt “off” or strangely emotional - you’re not alone. It’s not weakness. It’s transition. And transitions ask more of us than we realise.

I’m reminding myself of that right now: it’s okay if things feel shaky for a while.
It’s okay if the ground doesn’t feel steady yet. A new rhythm will come.
But for now - one box at a time, one breath at a time, one small anchor at a time ☺️

Moving house, changing jobs, becoming a parent, new friendships, ending of relationships, family changes, health changes, your child leaving home and even leaving home yourself if you’re a young adult……These are all examples of life transitions which can completely derail you. And there’s so many more!!!
So be kind to yourself if you’re navigating any of these, or any others just now ❤️

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You can change who you are anytime you want.

You can be the first person in your family or friendship group to do things differently.

You are allowed to transition into new versions of yourself without permission.

You are capable of growing and changing.

You can let go and move towards something new.

You are allowed to write the next chapter.

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So many of us end the day with a list running through our heads:
 “I wasn’t patient enough.” “I didn’t do enough.” “I should have been more.”

We crawl into bed carrying guilt, shame, and the feeling that somehow we’re always falling short.
And it’s exhausting isn’t it? Not just because of what the day demanded, but because of what we demand from ourselves.

When I stood at the edge of the sea last night, I was reminded of something different.
 The water doesn’t care if I had been short tempered that morning. It didn’t care if I finished the emails, folded the laundry, or kept it all together. It did’t ask me to prove myself.
It just held me. Exactly as I was.

And maybe that’s the kindness we all need. To remember that the day doesn’t need to be perfect to be over. That we don’t need to “earn” rest. That it’s enough to simply arrive at the end - worn out and tired, messy, still learning, and let ourselves be met with softness.

✨ So if tonight you’re lying awake replaying everything you didn’t do, try asking this instead:
 “Can I let myself rest, just as I am?”

Because that one question can change everything.

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Which one would you choose?

A run, a swim, meeting a friend, doing a hobby, being creative, being barefoot, dunking in the sea, watching the sunset, or sitting in peace……🌿 or maybe something else?

Sometimes all we need is a little moment to reconnect with ourselves.
No overthinking, no pressure, just something that makes you feel present, calm, and alive.

So, what’s your pick this weekend????? 💛

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When you realise you and your sibling grew up in the same house, but not the same home… it can shake something inside you.

The walls were the same. But the parents you each knew? Well, they were different people.

Maybe by the time you arrived, they were calmer… or more tired.
Maybe when your sibling was small, your parents were full of ambition… or weighed down by financial strain.
Maybe there was a loss, a divorce, a move, or a quiet shift in their inner world that changed how they showed up.

@gabormatemd speaks about this…. how the same parents can feel like completely different versions of themselves across time. And when we factor in birth order, family roles, and unprocessed trauma, the gap between siblings’ experiences widens even more.

As adults, reflecting back on this can be disorienting.
We start to notice the different stories we’ve been carrying.
We hear our sibling’s memories and wonder if they’re talking about the same people.
We start to question the family role we were assigned: Was I really the ‘difficult one’? The ‘quiet one’? The ‘responsible one’? Or was that just how I fit into that particular moment in our family’s life?

This is more than nostalgia….. it’s a kind of identity transition.
Because when your understanding of the past changes, the way you see yourself now changes too.

You may grieve for the version of childhood you didn’t have. You may find compassion for yourself, or for your parents, that you never thought possible. You may feel an ache you can’t quite name.

And yet, this is the work of growth.
To remember differently.
To honour your truth, even if it doesn’t match the truth of those you love.

If you’re in a reflective place and you’re struggling with what to do with it all - just know you don’t have to work it all out yourself ❤️

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When you’re always focused on the next step, you forget to notice you’re already living in a chapter your past self prayed for.

I see this so often in the therapy room. If I’m honest, in myself too at times.

You’ve weathered storms you thought might break you. You’ve had seasons where just getting out of bed felt like climbing a mountain. And yet, here you are… still moving, still becoming.

Sometimes we don’t feel ‘proud’ because the goalposts keep shifting.
We raise the bar every time we get close to it. But healing isn’t about sprinting to the finish line. It’s about pausing long enough to see that you’ve already grown roots, even in hard ground.

If you recognise yourself in this, take a moment today to look back…. not to relive the pain, but to witness your own resilience.
You are standing in a place your past self would have called impossible.

That’s worth noticing.
That’s worth honouring.

Share this with someone you are proud of
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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“I miss who I was before I became a mum.” That’s not a failure - it’s a truth.
 And for many, it’s the quiet start of matrescence: the emotional transition into motherhood.

It’s not just about nappies and night feeds. It’s about identity. About holding love in one hand… and loss in the other. About wondering if you’re allowed to grieve your freedom while still loving your child with your whole heart.

Motherhood often asks women to shape-shift fast into care-giver, protector, anchor. But who holds her through that shift? Who makes space for the version of her that’s still finding her way?

In therapy, we don’t rush to resolve the tension. We honour the messy middle. The space between who you were, and who you’re still becoming. Giving space for some validation and empathy goes a long way to calming a nervous system so we can then deepen our conversation. In this example, we would then potentially explore the mums fears of being judged and see where this goes….

I support women like this through life transitions, including matrescence. These aren’t just practical shifts, but deep emotional ones where grief, joy, identity and longing can all sit side by side.
You don’t have to choose one feeling. You don’t have to do it all on your own.

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Professional disclaimer: This is a fictionalised example created to reflect common themes that arise in therapy. It does not represent a real client or session. All therapeutic work is confidential and held within ethical professional standards.

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Not every run has to be about healing.
Or clearing your mind.
Or processing deep stuff.

Sometimes it’s just… a run.
Because your body wanted to move.
Because the air felt good.
Because it’s sunny, and you felt like it!

You don’t always have to carry something heavy to justify taking care of yourself.
You don’t have to feel broken to deserve space.
And you don’t need a reason to feel good in your body.

Today’s run wasn’t about sorting anything out.
It was about feeling strong, free, playful, and letting that be enough.

🌿 This is the kind of space I hold in Walk & Talk therapy too.
Yes, we can process the hard stuff.
But we also make room for moments of lightness - and helping your body just ‘be’.

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Ooooooof this is a toughie.

Hands up how many people are carrying family dynamic difficulties?!

“How do I get my parents to change?”
 This is something I hear often in therapy, especially from those navigating long-standing family dynamics.

Sometimes it’s not about whether your parents are “good” or “bad,” but about recognising the quiet grief that comes with being the one who always bends, explains, or stays quiet just to keep the peace.
That grief can be subtle.

It might sound like frustration. Or exhaustion. Or a deep, aching question: Why is it me doing all the work here?

In therapy, we make space for these questions. We slow down.
We notice what’s being carried and whether it’s still yours to hold.
Sometimes the work isn’t in doing more, but in softening the grip on a version of family that may never exist, and allowing space to feel the loss of what you hoped would be there.

I work with people during times of life transitions, and not all transitions are loud or dramatic. Sometimes they show up quietly, as shifts in how we see old relationships. Reflections on how we were parented, or how things feel now. Moments when we realise: “I’ve changed… this is no longer okay”
There’s no pressure to fix anything here.
Just space to name the truth, gently, safely, and at your own pace.

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Disclaimer: This is a fictionalised example of a therapeutic conversation, created to illustrate common themes that arise in counselling. It does not describe any real person or session. All client work is held in strict confidence and follows professional ethical standards.

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Here’s why this simple idea can change how we experience our day….

We all have core human needs.
You know, things like safety, connection, understanding, rest, autonomy, joy, choice, space, fun, harmony, self expression, purpose and love…. Just to name a few.

These aren’t “wants” or “luxuries,” they’re the essentials that help us feel balanced and well. They are universal human needs.

But here’s where it gets interesting: the things we do (our actions or choices) are actually just strategies to try and meet those needs.

🌱 Example:
* The need might be connection.
* One strategy to meet that need could be texting a friend. Another could be joining a class or spending time with family.

If we confuse the strategy with the need, we can get stuck. Maybe our friend doesn’t reply, and we feel hurt or lonely. But the real need is connection, and there are many ways to meet that need – so we can find another strategy.

💡 Why does this matter? The more needs we meet, the more we are likely to then feel emotions like calm, joy, peace, love or energy. When our needs aren’t met, we’re more likely to feel frustration, sadness, anxiety, anger or emptiness.

This doesn’t mean we should never feel difficult feelings (those are part of life too!) …but understanding what’s underneath can help us care for ourselves better.

Next time you’re having a “bad day,” and you want to turn it round into a “good” day, consider doing this one thing….. try asking yourself what you need:
 👉 What need of mine isn’t being met right now? 👉 Is there another way I could meet it?

And on “good days,” notice which needs are being met, and savour them. That awareness alone can make life feel richer.

Taking the power back, one day at a time 😌

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VERY IMPORTANT NOTES: 🧐🤓😏

I don’t recommend walking on ice with your clients 😝

I absolutely do recommend barefoot walking in the sand and sea though!!! 🤩

Muddy boots and a hot flask in winter while watching the robins is something short of idyllic. 🥾

Sitting/ walking/ rambling/ skipping - all are welcome activities 🧘‍♀️🚶‍♀️

Stone stacking, finding natures treasures, and creating meaning through outside art is exciting!

Getting caught in a rainstorm could actually be the most powerful thing you and your client will feel this year! 🌧️

Practicing mindfulness in the moment is incredibly moving.

Using movement can work in tandem with processing what’s going on inside.

Breath changes in nature. And so does conversation. Clients often open up in ways they hadn’t planned or thought possible.

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Supervision isn’t just about safety - it’s about confidence, creativity, and making this your own. I will also help you consider risk assessments, route planning, consent conversations, and everything else that builds a solid, ethical foundation for your outdoor work. More importantly, your walk and talk service will feel like you! Everyone does it slightly differently and that’s the beauty!

Come join me on the nature side
🌳🪾🌊🚶‍♂️❄️⛅️🌦️🌈

Message me if you’re interested in supervision with me, Jacques

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Who can resist these lighthearted themes for posts 🤪
Also who can find the typo? 🤣😇

Anyway, what I’m here to say is that therapy with me isn’t always comfortable or easy… but it is honest and real.

It’s a space to get brave, curious, and real about what’s happening underneath.

We look at the parts you’ve outgrown.
The patterns that keep looping.
The stories you’ve been telling yourself to survive, and the ones you’re ready to rewrite.

It can be difficult to convey what to expect in counselling with me, but I always seem to come back to the simple things;

✨ it’s a space for you to be heard and listened to. To find your voice. To learn how to take up room. Maybe after years of squashing things down or ignoring what’s there.
✨ it’s a place where you can feel safe to learn how to step into your feelings with bravery and curiosity. With real empathy and encouragement, because let’s be honest, we need someone to guide us sometimes!
✨ it’s somewhere for you to return to consistently, which allows for you to practice being with your new self awareness. And have someone to help you when it feels challenging and confronting, as well as celebrate your movements and growth.
✨ it’s a place where you can learn to experience freedom from what’s holding you back, and consider new ways of being. So you can start to consider life with more ease.

I’m here for anyone who wants these kind of things from therapy 😌😉

Jacques

We’re halfway through the holidays here in Scotland.

The photos are sunny, the plans look full.
But how’s your nervous system doing?

1. How’s your sense of self, when the structure is gone?
2. How are your boundaries, when you’re in shared space 24/7?
3. How is your heart, really?
⠀
For many, summer brings permission to slow down.
But for others, it stirs things up:

💥 Family dynamics you thought you’d outgrown
👀 A partner you’re suddenly spending too much time with
💔 Loneliness masked by busy plans
😔 The guilt of not feeling as grateful or present as you “should”
⚖️ The worry of balancing memories with finances.
⠀
Therapy isn’t about fixing all of this overnight.
It’s a space to make meaning of it.
To talk about what’s really going on without judgement, without performance.
⠀
If this summer is bringing up more than you expected… that’s okay.
This is what therapy is all about - giving you space to feel everything unspoken, everything that needs attention, and allowing you the healing to move forwards with more peace!

And if therapy isn’t within reach just now, is there any way you can ask yourself the questions above, and give space to acknowledge yourself, and recognise what it is you’re feeling, and what you may need?

I hope you’re being kind to yourself this summer ❤️

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Let’s talk about what happens when therapists struggle.

Yes, even when we know the tools.
Yes, even when we help others.
Yes, even when we’re “supposed” to be the ones holding it together.

Disclosure - I’ve lived through multiple traumas (because I’m human!!) and I’m still actively working through some of them.
Some wounds have softened.
Others still feel like they’re healing in slow motion.

Healing doesn’t always move in straight lines, especially when it’s layered with grief, identity shifts, or survival mode.

There was a moment in my own therapy, mid-crisis, when my therapist gently offered some self-care ideas. And I cut her off and just said, “I’ll just be honest with you, I know I won’t be doing any of that.”
Not out of defiance, I just didn’t have the capacity. I was in it. Deep grief. Existential overwhelm. That kind of heaviness that makes “a warm bath” sound absurd.
And honestly? That moment didn’t mean I wasn’t healing: it meant I was right in the middle of it.

Sometimes the work isn’t about doing better right away.
It’s just about surviving the wave.
Letting yourself not be okay.
Not performing progress.
Not pretending to be regulated when you’re unraveling.

As a counsellor, I hold myself through these seasons. I don’t unload them onto clients.
I don’t bypass them, either.
I’m still someone who can sit in the fire and stay anchored. Both are true.
Because being a therapist doesn’t mean being untouched by life.
It just means learning how to meet your own humanity with as much care as you offer to others.

So if you’re in a season where you can’t imagine meditating, eating three balanced meals, or going on a “healing walk”, I see you.
You’re not failing at healing. You’re just in it.

And that counts, too.

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“Not to be dramatic but…

I asked for peace.
I really thought that meant rest. Calm.
Maybe some breathwork and better sleep.
But apparently “peace” actually means unpacking 20 years of feelings I’ve been avoiding.
Anger I swallowed.
Words I never said.
Situations I told myself didn’t bother me, but they did. And they still do”

Does this sound like you??
Are you in therapy and finding it very confronting and confusing?

No one talks about how healing can feel like getting worse before it gets better.
How exhausting it is to feel again.
How weird it is to be mad at things that happened forever ago, and still let yourself feel that anger, because it never actually went anywhere.

This isn’t often what people picture when they think of healing.
But I think this is the work.
Feeling it. Naming it. Not shoving it down again.
Letting yourself be honest, even when it’s ugly or loud or uncomfortable.

Peace isn’t always soft.
Sometimes it shows up as the chaos that finally clears the way.

If you’re in this part of the journey, just know:
You’re not doing it wrong. It’s just real.

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When you’ve been the one holding everything - the schedule, the emotions, the mental load. It can feel easier to just keep doing it all yourself can’t it?!

Even when you’re tired.
Even when you’re burnt out.
Even when it’s quietly breaking you.

Letting go isn’t just about trust.
It’s about grief, control, resentment, and the stories we’ve learned about what it means to be “the capable one.”

You’re not too much.
You’re carrying too much. and you’ve been doing it alone for too long.

✨ What would it be like to let someone else get it wrong… and not rush in to fix it?

These are the types of questions we can explore in counselling together…

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It’s not always a breakdown.
Often, it’s a slow realisation that you’re tired of how things have been.
Tired of pushing through, tired of holding it all together, tired of the invisible weight no one else sees.

Many of the people I work with come to therapy in mid adulthood, they’re not in full blown crisis — but something has shifted.

They’re starting to feel the impact of years spent absorbing, managing, and pushing down. And now it’s showing up in subtle but powerful ways: burnout, irritability, disconnection, feeling “off” or no longer recognising themselves.

Therapy isn’t about being “fixed.”
It’s about feeling seen.
About making space for what’s been carried.
About getting curious about patterns that once served you, but maybe no longer do.

And slowly, steadily, finding your way back to a version of yourself that feels more honest, (or a newer version of you that feels authentic and peaceful) and more at ease.

If any of this resonates, you’re not alone.
You’re not behind.
You might just be ready.

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Lately, showing up for myself has looked like small, intentional shifts. Some quiet, some clumsy, all part of a seasonal way of living.

I’m saying no to the mindless snacking that leaves me feeling disconnected.

I’m having earlier bedtimes, not perfectly, but consistently enough to feel the difference.

I’m letting my hobbies ebb and flow — dropping the pressure to dive in 100% and instead enjoying the moments I do go for a run or write in my journal.

I’m tinting my own eyebrows at home and sometimes painting my nails, not because it’s revolutionary, but because these small self-tending rituals remind me that I’m worth the care.

I’m spending real, unfiltered time with people I love: slow, 1:1 conversations with friends and family that don’t always make it to my calendar but always fill me up.

I finally picked up a book I’ve been circling for months and I’m reading it without the pressure to finish quickly or extract wisdom from every page.

I’m planning ahead for the goals that matter and at the same time, holding space for how I feel on the actual day. Do I still want that coffee meet-up? Does that run still feel supportive? Can I swap it for silence? No rigidity here!

Spending more time in nature. Right now, that means the beach. Not a forest bathe, mountain retreat or a perfect hike, but toes in the sand, and a slow exhale that only the sea seems to pull from me. It is summer after all! And add to this - lunch outside, anytime I can! Podcast on, iced coffee and fresh air!

Replenishment is a biggie. Whether that nutritious meals a soothing face mask, lots of water or vitamins&minerals.

And taking time off - lots of different versions of annual leave. Some for time by myself, some days with my family, and some with friends….because all are important!

This season, showing up for myself isn’t flashy. It’s rhythmic. It’s reflective.
It’s a quiet return to the present- again and again.

What small and imperfect ways are you showing up for yourself at the moment?

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“Should I be feeling like this?”
“Is this worthy of therapy?”
“How does everyone else seem to manage?”

These are the questions I hear every single week in the therapy room.

You’re not in crisis.
You’re functioning. Managing. Showing up.
But the cost of holding it all is starting to show…..quietly.

I work with people who are self-aware, thoughtful, and ready to understand why life feels heavier than it should, and how they can start to feel like themselves again.

Therapy is where we unravel that stuckness.
Not to fix you, but to help you find you again.

You don’t have to justify how you feel.
You just have to be curious enough to explore it.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #therapy #counselling #healing #selfworth

It wasn’t about escape.
It was about space.
To feel. To think. To come back to herself.

Sometimes we don’t need a new life.
We just need time away from the noise
to remember what’s ours, and what isn’t.

Whether that’s a view from 30,000ft or 10 quiet minutes in the car. Or anything in between.
The work is the same.

I see this in therapy all the time:
Women don’t need rescuing.
They need room to choose.

This freedom is everything.
And that’s something I’m deeply passionate about making space for in therapy….

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You feel trapped, but it’s not that you want to leave…. You don’t want to run away and never come back.
You just feel… tired. And stuck. And it’s chlostrophobic.

Exhausted by a life that looks fine on the outside, but quietly erodes you on the inside.

Maybe you’re the one who works part-time, so you feel like you can’t ask for more help at home.
Maybe he earns more, so you don’t feel like the money is really “yours.”
Then you don’t book the help you need and you find yourself asking for permission more than you care to admit.
You don’t make the changes you’re craving because you don’t know how.
Because it feels like there’s no room.

No room to rest.
No room to ask.
No room to even imagine what it would look like if things shifted.
And while we are on it, you don’t feel you should have to ‘ask’ so there’s another layer of anger….

You think:
“It’s not worth the argument.”
“It’s easier to just do it myself.”
“I haven’t got the energy to explain what I need”.

And that quiet resignation?
It’s not laziness.
It’s survival.

You’ve been carrying too much for too long, and there’s never been a safe place to lay it down. To be understood. Really understood.

But here’s the truth:
Society is not set up for whole families like this. It’s not catching up very quickly and women are feeling trapped, with no autonomy over their life. No agency. No freedom from the daily grind. And with little support to change things it just becomes another responsibility that she would have to hold.

With the unraveling of anger and resentment, it causes destruction inside our lives.

I see this in the counselling room every week.
If this sounds like you - know you’re not alone and when you can, I hope you can find someone to talk to ❤️

I became the therapist I needed years ago.

I spent a long time navigating life’s biggest transitions mostly in my own head. Figuring it out quietly, independently, and often with no roadmap.

Through the various life transitions, I’ve shifted my identity as I started over again.
Always growing into a newer version of myself.
It taught me resilience, yes, but also how easy it is to become over-reliant on self-protection, on doing it all alone.

Therapy helped me start doing things differently.
To build relationships where I could be fully seen.
To speak what I needed, not just think it.
To trust that vulnerability wouldn’t cost me connection, it could deepen it.

Now, that’s the work I hold space for:
Not just coping, but relating.
Not just surviving change, but learning how to belong in the life you’re creating.

And like I said in my last post - not only my clients form and change in our sessions, I continue to do so too.

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Therapy isn’t a one way street.

Bearing witness to grief, to trauma, to bravery, to deep unravelling, it doesn’t just stay with the client.
It stays with me, too.

This work shapes how I see people.
How I hold space.
How I love.

It doesn’t harden me though.
It softens me: over and over again.

I am deeply grateful to all of my past and present clients - for trusting me and allowing me in to support you.

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This reel is a lighthearted take on a moment that many therapists will recognise: listening with care on the outside, while internally staying curious about where the session might lead.

Therapy doesn’t always follow a clear path or reach a defining moment in every session. Sometimes the work is in staying with what’s here, returning to themes that matter, making sense of experiences slowly, and allowing safety and trust to grow over time.

As a therapist, I don’t assume what’s ready to shift or surface. Sometimes people don’t need to air every thought and feeling and detail.
I hold space with patience and care, knowing that insight and change come in many forms, not always in the big, obvious ways, but often through small recognitions, new language, or simply the experience of being heard differently as we go over a familiar theme.

This reel is a playful way of showing that side of therapy. While I’m present and engaged, I’m also holding the deeper process, wondering where we are in your story, what’s being communicated beyond words, and how we can keep working together in a way that feels respectful to your pace and capacity.

Therapy isn’t about pushing for answers.
It’s about walking alongside with trust in what will come when it’s ready.
And when safe and ready, that’s where we open up a new way of communicating - with with offerings of what this experience may mean and where we go from here.
Therapy is a fascinating journey.

Wherever you are in your counselling journey, just know that it’s exactly where you need to be ❤️

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #therapy #counselling #eastlothian

Friday’s here!!!!
Time to put down the heavy thoughts and pick up some silliness!
As a therapist, I know how important it is to find joy in the little things (like buying yourself flowers, spinning a vase and smiling as the neighbour sees 🤪)

So go ahead, be playful, be silly, and let yourself breathe into the weekend. You deserve it! 🌼😄✨

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Not everything needs to be fixed.
Not everything has to make sense right away.

Sometimes what we need most when going through a big life change is someone who won’t rush us through the pain, but who can stay with us in it.

I’m Jacqueline Green, therapist in Dunbar (East Lothian), and I work with people navigating the quiet unraveling that transitions can bring.

If you’re in that in-between space; where nothing feels solid, and you’re not sure who you are anymore then I want to say that you’re not broken. You’re human.

You don’t have to navigate it alone.
Reach out if you’re ready to be met right where you are. I have two spaces opening up for summer ☺️

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That’s right - Your healing era will cost you.
Not just time or effort, but people, places, patterns, and also parts of yourself that once felt like home.

As you begin to set boundaries, speak your truth, and prioritise your peace, you may start to notice who drifts away.

Some people were attached to your wounds, not your worth.
And as you grow, not everyone will celebrate your transformation because your healing challenges their comfort.

Yes, it will hurt.
Grief is a quiet companion on the path to becoming.
But don’t lose heart.
With loss comes clarity.

Over time, you’ll find people who don’t need you to explain your growth, who hold space for your boundaries, and who show up without needing you to be smaller, quieter, or less of yourself.

You’re not losing everything - you’re making space for what’s real.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #healingera #grief #healing #authenticity

If you’re wondering how might therapy help you, let these statements guide you.

People show up to counselling for one reason or another.
Sometimes that reason is obvious.
Sometimes it’s not.
There is no ‘right time’ to go into therapy.
I meet you exactly where you’re at and help you with what you’re carrying.
Soon enough, your path becomes clear.

Follow @jacquelinegreencounselling for more on therapy talks.

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Welcome to my TED Talk (aka: things I wish someone had told me in 2009).

I know, it’s silent. It’s 100x speed.
You’re watching me flail my arms like I’m negotiating peace between your inner child and your adult responsibilities.

That’s because:
1. Social media takes time that I haven’t got today.
2. I have posted very little these last few weeks and something is better than nothing. Or is it…? 🙈
3. Healing isn’t always loud. In fact, it can be very silent.

The wild thing about self-awareness is: the more you have, the more you realise how much you didn’t know.

You think it’ll make life clearer - and in some ways it does. But suddenly you’re overanalysing eye contact, family group chats, your attachment style and your local barista’s tone of voice. You’re standing in Tesco wondering if that slight edge in your friend’s voice was a boundary or just low blood sugar. You’re mentally rewriting that text message five times because “just checking in” suddenly sounds emotionally loaded. You’re in a team meeting wondering if your need to people-please is actually unresolved parental dynamics.

So this reel? It’s not a tip. It’s not a “must-know.”
It’s not 5 things you should do.
It’s just me, caught between wanting to share something meaningful… and realising maybe we don’t always need more advice.

Sometimes the most helpful thing is less noise and a quiet reminder:
You’re already doing better than you think.
Go at your own pace and not Instagram’s.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #therapy #healing #walkandtalktherapy #onlinetherapy #innerpeace #personaldevelopment

Have you ever felt stuck between who you were and who you’re becoming?
Like you can’t go back, but you’re not quite sure where forward is either.

This space: that uncomfortable, uncertain middle is where so many of my clients find themselves.
It’s confusing, exhausting, and sometimes lonely.
Most people mull over these reflections alone, trying to make sense of the in-between.

In therapy with me, we slow down that noise.
We create a safe space to explore those feelings of loss, doubt, and fear without judgement.
You don’t have to have all the answers - or do it by yourself.

This work is about walking alongside you, helping you find clarity and compassion for yourself as you navigate change.
It’s not about rushing to a fix, but about honouring where you are, so you can step forward in your own time.

If you’re feeling untethered or unsure, know that you’re not broken - you’re human.
And you don’t have to do this alone.

If this resonates, you’re exactly who I’m here for.
Please do feel free to get in touch about having counselling with me, when you’re ready.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #therapy #healing #walkandtalktherapy #onlinetherapy #personaldevelopment #authenticity

When summer rolls in (which technically is pretty soon!!!) do you ever feel like you should be doing more?
More plans. More energy. More sun-soaked, picture-perfect moments.

But what if your version of summer didn’t need to be loud to be full?
What if it was soft and still meaningful?

✨ Soft Living Summer is for the ones who are tired of the pressure to perform joy.
It’s for quiet mornings, gentle choices, and joy that doesn’t need to be documented to be real.

You don’t have to chase the season to be in it.
You can let it meet you: softly, gently, fully 🤍

Tell me: what does your soft summer look like?
☺️☺️☺️☺️

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #summer #intentionalsummer #softlivingsummer

“My therapist only cares because I pay her.”

I’ve heard that line in different forms, in different voices - sometimes direct, sometimes said with a shrug, sometimes not said at all but sitting heavily in the room.

I understand it. Truly.
It’s a protective thought — one that tries to keep disappointment or vulnerability at arm’s length.

But I want to share something, quietly and honestly:
I think about my clients outside the therapy room.

I wonder how they’re doing after a hard session.
I remember they had a job interview, a test, a family gathering they were dreading.
I catch myself hoping they were able to rest this week, or say the thing they were scared to say.
I notice the patterns, the progress, the effort - even when they don’t.
Sometimes I’ll hear something, or read something, and think, “That might help so-and-so.” And I write it down, because I care.
You’ll also find me taking mental notes when I’m cooking dinner or when good idea will pops into my head half way through reading a book.

I care, not in a blurred-boundary, over-involved way — but in a deeply human one.

Because for me, therapy is a relationship.
A professional one, yes - but still a relationship built on real presence, real listening, and real care.

So much of the work doesn’t happen in big breakthroughs or perfect plans.
It happens in the steady remembering.
The being-held-in-mind.
That feeling - often new for many - that someone sees you, thinks of you, and still holds you in care even after the clock stops.

That part matters to me.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #therapy #therapy #healing #walkandtalktherapy

I hear it all the time in the therapy room:
“It’s not that bad.”
“I should be able to cope.”
“Other people have it worse.”

And underneath those words?
A quiet kind of dismissal.
A way of telling yourself that what you’re carrying doesn’t count — or that you’re not allowed to feel the way you do.

But here’s what I want you to know:

Dismissing yourself doesn’t make it easier.
It doesn’t make the pain go away.
It just makes you feel more alone in it.

You don’t have to do that anymore. It’s a habit and it can be changed!

You can start to listen to yourself — kindly, honestly — without shrinking it down or brushing it off.
You can take up space in your own story.

There’s room for you here.
There’s room for all of it.
Let’s practice in the therapy room and help you build that skill for your future :)

One space opening up in 3 weeks time if you’re interested….

☺️

@jacquelinegreencounselling

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #therapy #healing #walkandtalktherapy #onlinecounselling #innerpeace

A week in the life of a counsellor & supervisor: part healing, part holding space, part domestic chaos.

Why share this?
Because what happens in the therapy room is only part of the story.
The rest is the quiet, often invisible work - not just of clients, but of us who hold space, too.

Therapists live in the same world as everyone else.
We navigate everyday life while walking alongside others through some of their most vulnerable moments.
And it’s in this overlap — between the ordinary and the profound — that real insight lives.

This work isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
It’s about showing up — for others and ourselves — even when the laundry pile is high, the grief is quiet but heavy, and the to-do list never ends.

This week was a mix of supporting clients through major moments, writing reports, cleaning the kitchen floor, and tending to my own inner world.
Not always gracefully — but honestly.
Helping me become a better therapist for you….

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Some types of grief don’t have language.
They’re often not the kind of recognisable losses.

It’s the quiet ache of having a parent who’s alive, present in form - but never quite emotionally reachable. Never quite getting that bond or connection that some others have.
A parent who maybe loved you in their own way, but couldn’t meet you where you needed them to.

This kind of grief is often lifelong.
It doesn’t announce itself in big moments.
It shows up in the pauses, when you’re caring for others in a way you wished you were cared for.
It shows up in relationships where you overextend, hoping to be seen.
In the deep exhaustion of trying to stay connected to someone who never really felt safe.

So many carry this grief in silence. Because how do you mourn someone who is still here?
How do you explain the absence of something that technically never existed?

But here’s what I’ve learned through not only my own experience but through hearing from incredible people in the therapy room - naming this grief is the beginning.

Not to blame, but to understand.
Not to feel, but to soften.

You don’t have to carry what they couldn’t give.
It’s not your job to fix what someone else never learned how to offer.

There’s a quiet powerful freedom in saying -

“this hurt me, it wasn’t enough, an I’m allowed to grieve that.”

This is part of the healing so many are doing right now so know that you are not alone.
You’re not ‘too sensitive’ or imagining it.
You’re healing. And that matters more than it might seem.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #therapy #healing #disconnection #peace #estrangement

In my last post, I spoke about quiet grief - the kind that comes not from death, but from emotional absence.

You might find yourself grieving a parent who is still physically present, yet emotionally unreachable.
That ache can be deeply confusing.
There’s no funeral, no big goodbyes, no language for the loss. But it is a loss. And it’s valid.

This kind of grief often shows up as:
– A deep longing to be seen, loved or nurtured
– Guilt for feeling sadness or anger
– A sense of emptiness in relationships
– Confusion: “Why do I feel this way? They’re still here.”

If this is your experience, please know:
You are not overreacting.
You are not ungrateful.
You are grieving.
Quietly, bravely, and in a world that doesn’t always know how to honour that.

And as painful as it is, you can learn to live with what you didn’t receive….

You can give yourself what they couldn’t.
You can build peace without pretending it never hurt.

You can grieve someone who’s still alive.
And you can learn how to live with what you never had.
There is a way to peace.
You don’t have to do it alone.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #healing #innerpeace #grief

Sometimes the biggest shifts in life are the ones no one else can see.

We often think of life transitions as major external events - separation, moving house, changing jobs, losing someone.
But some of the most profound changes happen inside of us.

Like when you start seeing a long-standing relationship differently.
When you begin to understand that the ache you’ve been carrying is grief - even though no one passed away.
When your heart starts quietly whispering: something needs to change.

As a therapist, I work with people navigating these deeply personal transitions.
Moments when the old way of being no longer fits, but the new way hasn’t fully taken shape.
It’s uncomfortable. It’s disorienting. And it’s often lonely - because on the surface, everything might still look the same.

One of the tenderest transitions I see is when someone begins to reckon with the emotional distance in a relationship with a parent.
This isn’t always about cutting ties - it can simply be about accepting reality, softening unrealistic hopes, and learning how to care for yourself in a space that’s never fully felt safe.

If you’re in that space, you are not alone.
You are not too sensitive.
And you are not wrong for wanting more.

There is a way through.

#eastlothiancounselling #eastlothiancounsellor #healing #acceptance #grief #loss

CONFESSIONS OF A THERAPIST: When pressure makes you pull back… even from things you want
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Here’s something I’ve had to learn (and keep learning): I don’t respond well to being told what to do.
Even when I’m the one doing the telling 😖
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For so long, I thought this resistance was laziness. Or self-sabotage. Or avoidance.
But over time, I’ve come to realise it’s not about the effort.
I can work hard, and I often do.
It’s about agency. It’s about feeling like I’m choosing, not being pushed.
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When I feel pressure — whether it’s from societal expectations, the “shoulds” in my head, or the invisible rules so many of us live by — I pull back.
And it’s frustrating when the thing I’m backing away from is something I actually want.
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But here’s the shift that’s been changing everything for me: instead of forcing or pushing, I ask myself why I want something. I soften the urgency. I let the pressure melt, and I listen to what genuinely inspires me.
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That’s where movement begins.
Not from pressure, but from permission.
From authenticity.
From a deep trust in my own timing.
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This is especially for those of you out there who feels the heavy weight of expectation - who are dreaming of quitting jobs, starting a new hobby, stepping out of roles, or even just resting.
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You’re not wrong to feel tired.
Or boxed in. Or overwhelmed.
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And you’re not broken for wanting more freedom.
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You might just need to approach things differently — with more self-trust, more gentleness, and more space to ask:
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“What would this look like if it felt lighter?”
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Let that question take you somewhere softer. Somewhere truer. You don’t have to run — but you also don’t have to stay stuck.
You get to choose.

Follow @jacquelinegreencounselling for more!

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #authenticity #freedom #healing

I’ve never been a runner.
And honestly? I still don’t think of myself as one.

But lately, I’ve been going for short runs when the suns out, when I need a break, and when it feels good - not because I ‘should’.
I can already feel my body recoil back at the feeling of pressure as I write the ‘should’.

No pressure, just movement, sunshine and a space to breathe.

If you’ve been waiting for the perfect time to try something new - this is your gentle nudge:

You don’t need to go all in. You don’t need to be great. You just need to start in a way that feels kind to you.

More on why pressure doesn’t work in all different kinds of areas, in my next post!! 🙂

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I hope the next chapter of your life is…..

Taking a deep breath 🌬️

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Life transitions are some of the most emotionally demanding experiences we go through — even when they are expected, planned, or even wanted.

Changes such as bereavement, divorce, becoming a parent, relocating, retirement, illness, or career shifts can leave us feeling disoriented, vulnerable, and questioning our sense of self.

Each transition brings its own emotional landscape.

Where are you right now?

➡️ Settled: You’ve weathered the initial storm of change and are beginning to find your new footing. There’s a sense of stability — but often, unspoken emotional work remains under the surface.

➡️ Gaining Momentum: A new chapter is unfolding. There’s energy and movement — but perhaps also anxiety about what’s ahead and whether you can truly trust this new ground.

➡️ Crisis: Everything familiar feels like it has fallen away. In the thick of crisis, it’s common to feel disoriented, frightened, or exhausted. This phase is painful — but it can also be the catalyst for deep, lasting growth.

➡️ Aftermath: The dust has settled, but the emotional impact lingers. Rebuilding after change is a slow, powerful process that often happens quietly, inside of us, before it shows on the outside.

Here’s what you need to know:
➡️ It’s normal to experience a wide range of emotions during major transitions — including grief, fear, anger, numbness, and sometimes unexpected moments of hope.
➡️ Healing doesn’t mean going “back” to how things were — it means learning how to move forward with what life has brought you.
➡️ Building resilience is about more than just “bouncing back.” It’s about integrating the change into your life story, allowing it to shape your new sense of self, and consciously building on it.
➡️ Growth often comes from learning how to incorporate what you’ve experienced — the losses, the lessons, the new perspectives — and using them to create a life that feels more authentic and more aligned with who you are becoming.

I’ve written a blog on this too if you’re interested in hearing more! Link in bio 😌

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I’ve written a 4 minute long blog on how life transitions can be so disorientating to our identity and sense of self.

We all go through major life changes, and sometimes, some are harder than others.
If you’ve been through a big change - maybe bereavement, becoming a parent, a major health diagnosis, relationship break up and anything else which changes the course of direction, then this blog is for you.
Aka - everyone! 😉

Please give this blog some love, share it to your stories or send it to those currently amidst a crisis point in their life or those finding stable ground again after a life change has happened.
The important message here is that no one has to feel alone.

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Jacques 💛

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