JACQUELINE GREEN COUNSELLING

ABOUT ME

Hi, I'm Jacqueline.

Originally from Wales, and now living on the East coast of Scotland, I am an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist working with young people and adults.

I offer counselling and clinical supervision online and outside in nature.

Counselling with me is a deeply personal experience which focusses on growing and healing from difficult experiences and encouraging transformative change. I usually find myself working with young people and adults who are going through, or have gone through big life changes and it's rocked their sense of self. I help people to reconnect to themselves, accept this new way of life, and build confidence and trust in yourself as you go.

Although I work with all emotional challenges and life experiences, some specialities I work within include; adolescent experiences, trauma, grief, relationship difficulties, perinatal, and family breakdown.

I am currently training in working somatically with trauma in therapeutic practice. This will allow me to integrate body-based approaches to support people in processing and resolving trauma.

I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

As well as accredited qualifications with young people and adults, I have 15+ years experience in the mental health field, working in schools, the NHS, the third sector and within private practice.

I am fully insured, an ICO controller, and I engage in regular supervision and training.

I hear it all the time in the therapy room:
“It’s not that bad.”
“I should be able to cope.”
“Other people have it worse.”

And underneath those words?
A quiet kind of dismissal.
A way of telling yourself that what you’re carrying doesn’t count — or that you’re not allowed to feel the way you do.

But here’s what I want you to know:

Dismissing yourself doesn’t make it easier.
It doesn’t make the pain go away.
It just makes you feel more alone in it.

You don’t have to do that anymore. It’s a habit and it can be changed!

You can start to listen to yourself — kindly, honestly — without shrinking it down or brushing it off.
You can take up space in your own story.

There’s room for you here.
There’s room for all of it.
Let’s practice in the therapy room and help you build that skill for your future :)

One space opening up in 3 weeks time if you’re interested….

☺️

@jacquelinegreencounselling

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A week in the life of a counsellor & supervisor: part healing, part holding space, part domestic chaos.

Why share this?
Because what happens in the therapy room is only part of the story.
The rest is the quiet, often invisible work - not just of clients, but of us who hold space, too.

Therapists live in the same world as everyone else.
We navigate everyday life while walking alongside others through some of their most vulnerable moments.
And it’s in this overlap — between the ordinary and the profound — that real insight lives.

This work isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
It’s about showing up — for others and ourselves — even when the laundry pile is high, the grief is quiet but heavy, and the to-do list never ends.

This week was a mix of supporting clients through major moments, writing reports, cleaning the kitchen floor, and tending to my own inner world.
Not always gracefully — but honestly.
Helping me become a better therapist for you….

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Some types of grief don’t have language.
They’re often not the kind of recognisable losses.

It’s the quiet ache of having a parent who’s alive, present in form - but never quite emotionally reachable. Never quite getting that bond or connection that some others have.
A parent who maybe loved you in their own way, but couldn’t meet you where you needed them to.

This kind of grief is often lifelong.
It doesn’t announce itself in big moments.
It shows up in the pauses, when you’re caring for others in a way you wished you were cared for.
It shows up in relationships where you overextend, hoping to be seen.
In the deep exhaustion of trying to stay connected to someone who never really felt safe.

So many carry this grief in silence. Because how do you mourn someone who is still here?
How do you explain the absence of something that technically never existed?

But here’s what I’ve learned through not only my own experience but through hearing from incredible people in the therapy room - naming this grief is the beginning.

Not to blame, but to understand.
Not to feel, but to soften.

You don’t have to carry what they couldn’t give.
It’s not your job to fix what someone else never learned how to offer.

There’s a quiet powerful freedom in saying -

“this hurt me, it wasn’t enough, an I’m allowed to grieve that.”

This is part of the healing so many are doing right now so know that you are not alone.
You’re not ‘too sensitive’ or imagining it.
You’re healing. And that matters more than it might seem.

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In my last post, I spoke about quiet grief - the kind that comes not from death, but from emotional absence.

You might find yourself grieving a parent who is still physically present, yet emotionally unreachable.
That ache can be deeply confusing.
There’s no funeral, no big goodbyes, no language for the loss. But it is a loss. And it’s valid.

This kind of grief often shows up as:
– A deep longing to be seen, loved or nurtured
– Guilt for feeling sadness or anger
– A sense of emptiness in relationships
– Confusion: “Why do I feel this way? They’re still here.”

If this is your experience, please know:
You are not overreacting.
You are not ungrateful.
You are grieving.
Quietly, bravely, and in a world that doesn’t always know how to honour that.

And as painful as it is, you can learn to live with what you didn’t receive….

You can give yourself what they couldn’t.
You can build peace without pretending it never hurt.

You can grieve someone who’s still alive.
And you can learn how to live with what you never had.
There is a way to peace.
You don’t have to do it alone.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #counselling #healing #innerpeace #grief

Sometimes the biggest shifts in life are the ones no one else can see.

We often think of life transitions as major external events - separation, moving house, changing jobs, losing someone.
But some of the most profound changes happen inside of us.

Like when you start seeing a long-standing relationship differently.
When you begin to understand that the ache you’ve been carrying is grief - even though no one passed away.
When your heart starts quietly whispering: something needs to change.

As a therapist, I work with people navigating these deeply personal transitions.
Moments when the old way of being no longer fits, but the new way hasn’t fully taken shape.
It’s uncomfortable. It’s disorienting. And it’s often lonely - because on the surface, everything might still look the same.

One of the tenderest transitions I see is when someone begins to reckon with the emotional distance in a relationship with a parent.
This isn’t always about cutting ties - it can simply be about accepting reality, softening unrealistic hopes, and learning how to care for yourself in a space that’s never fully felt safe.

If you’re in that space, you are not alone.
You are not too sensitive.
And you are not wrong for wanting more.

There is a way through.

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CONFESSIONS OF A THERAPIST: When pressure makes you pull back… even from things you want
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Here’s something I’ve had to learn (and keep learning): I don’t respond well to being told what to do.
Even when I’m the one doing the telling 😖
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For so long, I thought this resistance was laziness. Or self-sabotage. Or avoidance.
But over time, I’ve come to realise it’s not about the effort.
I can work hard, and I often do.
It’s about agency. It’s about feeling like I’m choosing, not being pushed.
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When I feel pressure — whether it’s from societal expectations, the “shoulds” in my head, or the invisible rules so many of us live by — I pull back.
And it’s frustrating when the thing I’m backing away from is something I actually want.
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But here’s the shift that’s been changing everything for me: instead of forcing or pushing, I ask myself why I want something. I soften the urgency. I let the pressure melt, and I listen to what genuinely inspires me.
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That’s where movement begins.
Not from pressure, but from permission.
From authenticity.
From a deep trust in my own timing.
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This is especially for those of you out there who feels the heavy weight of expectation - who are dreaming of quitting jobs, starting a new hobby, stepping out of roles, or even just resting.
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You’re not wrong to feel tired.
Or boxed in. Or overwhelmed.
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And you’re not broken for wanting more freedom.
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You might just need to approach things differently — with more self-trust, more gentleness, and more space to ask:
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“What would this look like if it felt lighter?”
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Let that question take you somewhere softer. Somewhere truer. You don’t have to run — but you also don’t have to stay stuck.
You get to choose.

Follow @jacquelinegreencounselling for more!

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I’ve never been a runner.
And honestly? I still don’t think of myself as one.

But lately, I’ve been going for short runs when the suns out, when I need a break, and when it feels good - not because I ‘should’.
I can already feel my body recoil back at the feeling of pressure as I write the ‘should’.

No pressure, just movement, sunshine and a space to breathe.

If you’ve been waiting for the perfect time to try something new - this is your gentle nudge:

You don’t need to go all in. You don’t need to be great. You just need to start in a way that feels kind to you.

More on why pressure doesn’t work in all different kinds of areas, in my next post!! 🙂

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I hope the next chapter of your life is…..

Taking a deep breath 🌬️

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Life transitions are some of the most emotionally demanding experiences we go through — even when they are expected, planned, or even wanted.

Changes such as bereavement, divorce, becoming a parent, relocating, retirement, illness, or career shifts can leave us feeling disoriented, vulnerable, and questioning our sense of self.

Each transition brings its own emotional landscape.

Where are you right now?

➡️ Settled: You’ve weathered the initial storm of change and are beginning to find your new footing. There’s a sense of stability — but often, unspoken emotional work remains under the surface.

➡️ Gaining Momentum: A new chapter is unfolding. There’s energy and movement — but perhaps also anxiety about what’s ahead and whether you can truly trust this new ground.

➡️ Crisis: Everything familiar feels like it has fallen away. In the thick of crisis, it’s common to feel disoriented, frightened, or exhausted. This phase is painful — but it can also be the catalyst for deep, lasting growth.

➡️ Aftermath: The dust has settled, but the emotional impact lingers. Rebuilding after change is a slow, powerful process that often happens quietly, inside of us, before it shows on the outside.

Here’s what you need to know:
➡️ It’s normal to experience a wide range of emotions during major transitions — including grief, fear, anger, numbness, and sometimes unexpected moments of hope.
➡️ Healing doesn’t mean going “back” to how things were — it means learning how to move forward with what life has brought you.
➡️ Building resilience is about more than just “bouncing back.” It’s about integrating the change into your life story, allowing it to shape your new sense of self, and consciously building on it.
➡️ Growth often comes from learning how to incorporate what you’ve experienced — the losses, the lessons, the new perspectives — and using them to create a life that feels more authentic and more aligned with who you are becoming.

I’ve written a blog on this too if you’re interested in hearing more! Link in bio 😌

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I’ve written a 4 minute long blog on how life transitions can be so disorientating to our identity and sense of self.

We all go through major life changes, and sometimes, some are harder than others.
If you’ve been through a big change - maybe bereavement, becoming a parent, a major health diagnosis, relationship break up and anything else which changes the course of direction, then this blog is for you.
Aka - everyone! 😉

Please give this blog some love, share it to your stories or send it to those currently amidst a crisis point in their life or those finding stable ground again after a life change has happened.
The important message here is that no one has to feel alone.

LINK IN BIO

Jacques 💛

You are not broken.
You don’t need to fix yourself to be worthy of making changes, resting, being loved or finding peace.

Many people come to therapy believing they need to do more, be better, or fix themselves before they can feel okay. But often, the real work is much gentler.

Here’s what I want you to know:
✨ You are not a problem to solve. You are a person who has been doing their best to cope.
💫 Healing doesn’t always mean changing who you are. Sometimes it means understanding why you are the way you are - with compassion, not judgment.
🌟 It’s okay to just be. You don’t need to earn your right to rest or take up space.
⭐️ The goal isn’t perfection. It’s feeling safe, connected, and more like yourself.

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re constantly trying to “fix” something in you - then pause.
Breathe.
Ask yourself:
✨ What would it feel like to stop trying to improve and just care for myself as I am today?
💫 What if nothing is wrong with me - I’m just tired, stressed, or carrying too much?
🌟 What’s one small act of kindness I can offer myself this week - without trying to change anything?

Therapy can be a space to explore these questions gently, with support.
But even outside of therapy, you can begin by showing yourself the softness you’ve been waiting to receive.

You’re already enough. Right here. As you are.

Let’s be softer.

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When life changes in a big way — whether it’s the end of a relationship, the beginning of parenthood, grief, career shifts, or something that caught you completely off guard — it can feel like the ground beneath you has moved.
And with it, your sense of identity can feel shaky too.

- You might feel disconnected from the person you used to be.
- You might not recognise the version of yourself you’re becoming.
And that can be unsettling — even scary.

But I want to gently remind you of this:
You’re still you.

Even in the uncertainty.
Even in the mess.
Even when you don’t have the words for it yet.

You’re not broken. You’re not lost.
You’re evolving — shifting into a new version of yourself that is being shaped by everything you’ve been through.

These moments of transition, as uncomfortable as they are, hold a quiet kind of power.
They invite you to look inward.
To ask: What do I really need now? What do I want to leave behind? And who am I becoming?

Therapy gives you the space to sit with those questions — to explore the edges of your changing identity without pressure to ‘fix’ anything or go back to who you were before.

There’s no rush to feel ‘put together.’
There’s no expectation to have it all figured out.

Becoming isn’t linear. It’s layered.
Sometimes it looks like crying in the car.
Sometimes it looks like laughing at something that used to make you ache.
And sometimes, it looks like sitting quietly with your coffee and realising… maybe I’m okay, right here.

You’re allowed to take your time.
You’re allowed to grieve the old you while welcoming the new one.

Because you’re still you — just becoming more of who you were always meant to be.

Connecting to your new sense of self is something I feel very passionate about helping people with. If things you, please feel free to enquire about working with me. 2 new Spaces opening up this month and next!

❤️‍🩹

#lifechanges #lifetransitions #healing #identity #identityshift #becomingauthentic #eastlothiancounselling #eastlothiancounsellor #counselling

If this reel hits a little too close to home, I want you to know - you’re not alone.

There’s a quiet kind of resilience that doesn’t get talked about enough. The kind that shows up mid-breakdown, not after one.
You’re still cooking dinner while holding back tears.
Still replying to messages with a smile no one knows you had to force.
Still showing up for everyone else while quietly unravelling inside.

That strength often gets mistaken for being “fine”.
But I see the cost. I see the toll it takes when you’re just trying to keep life moving - even when your body and mind are begging for pause.

This isn’t about glorifying the struggle or calling suffering strength. It’s about naming what’s real.
You are holding so much.
I’ve been there - breaking down while surviving. Just because we keep going, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.

If no one’s told you lately:
* You don’t have to earn your rest.
* You don’t need to fall apart perfectly.
* You’re allowed to need support, even if you’re the one who usually gives it.

I see you. And you’re not invisible here with me.

Save this if you needed the reminder today.
Share it with someone who’s quietly carrying more than they let on.

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Are luxuries now part of surviving? Or is this just a trap?

I often talk about minimalistic living, downshifting and not falling prey to the rat race of society. Needing less means less pressure right?

But this take on the whole thing is a little something different from me after a few months of mulling over the pressures I see on people in the therapy room regardless of their financial situation.

I would Love to hear your thoughts??? 👇

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Many people in therapy may reach a point where they don’t feel like they’re ‘making progress.’
And honestly…..I get it.

It’s really common to feel like this.
I’ve even had moments in my own therapy journey before where I’ve thought, ‘Why am I still stuck here?

But here’s the thing - progress isn’t always obvious.
It’s not a neatly wrapped success story or a dramatic ‘before and after’ moment.
Sometimes, it’s as subtle as pausing before reacting, catching a thought that used to spiral you, or realising something isn’t working for you anymore.

It’s easy to dismiss these moments because they don’t feel like much.
But they are something.
They’re proof that you’re shifting, even in ways you can’t always see.
Growth isn’t just about feeling ‘better’ - it’s also about seeing yourself more clearly, even in the hard moments.

If you feel stuck right now, I want to remind you:
You are changing.
You are healing.
The work you’re doing is paying off, even if it’s slow, even if it’s invisible, even if you don’t fully believe it yet.
Keep going💛

Share this with a friend who IS doing so well, even if they sometimes doubt themselves 💛

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We talk about self care like it’s always an option.
But when you’re in survival mode, even the basics can feel impossible. And that’s not a failure - that’s just reality.

The pressure to ‘take care of yourself’ can feel like another impossible task when you’re barely holding on.

I remember a time in my past that my therapist suggested we write out a long list of nice things I could do for myself when I was surviving a storm.
And I responded with - if I’m honest, I’m not going to do any of that, I just can’t right now.
And so our therapy turned inwards and deeper into what it was like to just exist in this storm as best I can. And that lack of pressure and complete acceptance was so very needed.

It’s true, that acknowledging our choices, power and worth is important - helping us to find little ways to care for ourselves.
But for that, we need capacity.
And we don’t always have capacity.

So for anyone in the trenches just now - be gentle with yourself - survival is worthy.
You are still worthy 🌱🌼

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As the seasons change, so do our needs🌱

Every season offers us different opportunities to care for ourselves, embrace new activities, and connect with what feels right in the moment.

You don’t have to feel like time is wasted or happiness will only come when the sun arrives or when your holidays come for example - there’s beauty in every single day.

Here are some ideas to inspire you:

🌞 Summer:
• Take nature walks or hike 🌳
• Plan outdoor picnics with friends 🍉
• Enjoy lighter meals like salads/smoothies 🥗
• Try new water activities 🌊
• Go for a summer BBQ with loved ones 🍔
• Get active with outdoor workouts 🏋️‍♀️
• Explore new hiking trails or local parks 🌲

🍂 Autumn:
• Cozy up with a hot drink and a good book📚
• Start journaling to reflect on the year 🍂
• Cook hearty soups or stews 🍲
• Practice mindfulness or gratitude in your daily routine 🙏
• Host game nights with friends 🎲
• Ground yourself in nature by taking walks in the park 🌳
• Set the mood with candles or mood lighting 🕯️
• Learn a new craft or creative hobby 🎨

❄️ Winter:
• Embrace cozy indoor activities like yoga 🧘‍♀️
• Watch a movie marathon or read by the fireplace 🎬🔥
• Focus on rest and recharge – sleep is self-care 😴
• Pamper yourself with a self-indulgent rituals, like a hot bath or baking your favourite cakes 🛀🧁
• Take cold frosty walks when you’re wrapped up 🧣
• Enjoy early nights and sleep 🌙
• Practice slow mornings with a mindful routine 🕊️

🌸 Spring:
• Start a new hobby or creative project 🎨
• Plant a garden or tend to houseplants 🌱
• Enjoy fresh, vibrant meals with seasonal fruits 🍓
• Set new goals for personal growth and renewal ✨
• Take dusk walks to enjoy the beauty of the later evenings 🌅

What activities help you embrace the energy of the season you’re in? 🌿

💬 Drop your ideas in the comments below, or make your own list to help guide you through the changing seasons.

Let’s embrace the flow of life and empower ourselves to make the most of every season! 💪

#SelfCare #SeasonalLiving #EmbraceTheSeasons #Mindfulness #EmpowerYourself #HolisticWellness #SeasonalChanges #Eastlothiancounselling #eastlothiancounsellor

Working as a counsellor - I get the beautiful benefit of connecting with people every day.
But connection and therapy isn’t restricted to one environment.

My home office is beautiful, but my outside office is even more so 😉

I work with people, inside & online, as well as outside in nature. It keeps me busy that’s for sure - one minute I’m down at the beach and having a powerful session in nature, and after lunch I’m taming my windswept hair before a warm and cozy online session!!

Have you ever tried therapy while outside?
Did you know it’s a thing?
Well….I say walking, but sometimes it’s sitting in the sand and stacking stones or carving words with sticks, and sometimes it’s practicing grounding techniques in the forest. It can be anything healing in nature!!
🌳🏝️🌊🌷☔️🌿🌱☁️🍁✨🌈🦢

Are you a log on from your cosy blanket and safe space kind of therapy person? ☕️🕯️🏡🛋️🪴📚
Or are you a get out there and expose yourself to the elements kind of therapy person?
Or are you a bit of both?

Now that Spring is here, I’m creating two new opportunities for walk & talk sessions as of next month, so reach out if you’re interested! 😌

@jacquelinegreencounselling

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How to say No and the feelings behind saying No are two different things aren’t they?!

Sure, saying no is simple, it’s just a word, a sentence, or explanation.
But there’s so much behind why saying No can be hard for people.
It’s often about messages we’ve received, conditions of worth, expectations, trauma, habits, and many other engrained ways of thinking and behaving.

But truth is, there’s never a perfect way to say no to every person. Because each person will feel differently about it, and they’ll feel differently about it depending on what day it is, what their mood is and what they had to eat last night 😅🤷🏼‍♀️

So radical acceptance involves an authentic, honest and present nature. It’s offering up a no with complete acceptance within yourself that this is the right thing for you and the world will keep spinning afterwards so to just go for it!

What do you think of these lighter approaches to saying no?

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Spring is here, and with it comes a chance to hit the reset button 🌸
The world is waking up from the slowness and hibernation of winter, and so can you.

What will you make of this season?
More energy, new goals, fresh possibilities — it’s all in your hands.
Don’t wait for change, create it.
Let spring be the season you bloom 🌱

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It’s been one of those weeks which has included ups, downs and all arounds.
Gosh, it’s tiring isn’t it!
One minute you’re feeling good, positive and energised, full of hope and enthusiasm.
Next minute you’re trying to muster up the energy to take care of basic needs.

Life can be a lot sometimes and I have to remind myself that with light, comes darkness. With ying, comes yang. And do you know what…. It’s so normal!

But what I notice is that the feeling of being vulnerable to external factors - allowing them to determine my mood and my outlook can be difficult to swallow at times.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could manage, regulate and feel a constant safety in our body regardless of what life is throwing at us?!
But it’s not always possible and it’s been a week where I’ve had to meet myself with compassion and gentleness as I move through various feelings over the week.

Do you resonate with any of this???

This weekend, I need rest, outside time, healthier food, tidy my living space and create calm, and to appreciate a Sunday slowness.

What do you need this weekend???

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Did you know that healing doesn’t have to happen in a counsellors office - it can happen from the comfort of your own home, wrapped in your favourite blanket, sipping your tea or sitting in your safe space.

Online therapy makes healing more accessible, flexible, and personal.
No long commutes, no new environment, no waiting room. Just you, your emotions, and a space where you can be fully seen.

Remember - you don’t need a ‘perfect setting’ - is there such a thing? You just need what works for you!

Sometimes this is at your home.
Sometimes it’s outside in nature with therapy outside. And sometimes it could be in a therapists office.
There is no perfect way.
Just your way!

If you’ve had judgements about the effectiveness of counselling online, but wish it would work for you -
I encourage you to give it a try! It may surprise you 😌

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #onlinetherapy #onlinecounselling

So here I am, sitting on a random log on the beach because… I wanted to 😅
Sometimes self-care looks and acceptance looks like finding a comfy spot in nature and just taking a moment to breathe. Sometimes it’s holding boundaries. Sometimes it’s choosing a healthy meal and an early bedtime. And sometimes, it’s doing something out of your comfort zone without worrying about what others think.

Growing self love and acceptance isn’t a crash course that we can conquer in a few days, but a way of living that reaffirms healthy beliefs about yourself over and over again.
This can be done through compassionate self discovery in counselling and support and guidance on how to practice this.
So I’ll see you when you’re ready….. 😉

*edited to actually include audio 😅

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Gentle reminder -
Your time is valuable.
You are allowed to pause.

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounsellor #dayoff #dayinthelifeofatherapist #slowdown

If you’ve ever wondered how counselling can help to heal from trauma then read on ☺️

Healing from trauma is a deeply personal journey that goes beyond just understanding the past.
It’s about reconnecting with your body and emotions and learning how to respond when stress or triggers arise.
Counselling can help you build awareness of the sensations in your body, helping you understand what’s happening and how to react with trust and compassion towards yourself.
In counselling, we strengthen that connection between mind and body, and it becomes easier to navigate the moments when past trauma shows up in our present.

I know from my own experience that even as a counsellor, I’m still a work in progress. Aren’t we all?!
As shared in my last reel, when I have a trauma reaction, my body often shakes or tremors, and I have to pause, breathe, and remind myself to trust that I’m safe in the moment. But this has taken work!
This would also be part of your journey - learning how to reconnect with safety each time those triggers arise.

Counselling offers you a safe space to explore your body’s reactions without judgment, helping you build trust in yourself and your responses. Having an ally - someone to guide you through this process can make all the difference.
You don’t have to do this alone.
With support, you can learn to reframe those trauma reactions and transform them into something that empowers you.

The deeper understanding and practice you develop in counselling can create a foundation to explore further tools that resonate with you, allowing you to heal and move forward at your own pace and in your own way. 🌱

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Every single person is working it all out, at their own pace. Even your therapist doesn’t have it all worked out.

You see, we are all privy to trauma and challenges and in light of this I wanted to share one of the most fascinating responses my own body still gives me still to this day when I feel unsafe or under threat.

My body tremors and shakes.

You know, like your knees do when you’re cold?
Or a dog does when he’s scared.
Or a deer does after escaping a frightening experience.

Tremors and shakes during the fight or flight response are caused by the body’s release of adrenaline, which triggers muscle tension and rapid movements in preparation for action. Aka - it’s a sign that I am not safe, and my body is preparing to make a swift exit!

Does this sound like you?
Or maybe your body responds differently - maybe racing heart, sweaty palms, feeling nauseous, freezing and dissociating or even fawning.

If these survival responses happen in places that seem out of place, or you feel like you don’t have the ability to calm your nervous system down, or you’re missing out on opportunities and life because of this, then trauma-informed counselling can help you.

More on this in my next post.
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It’s not that any one of these things ‘cause’ anxiety.
Anxiety is not a blame game, it’s certainly not your fault. If your nervous system feels like it’s under threat, then your body is designed to respond to this and keep you safe - aka anxiety!

But here’s the thing - modern culture can be fast paced, pressurising and information overload.

If you’re filling your week with high intensity exercise - absorbing endless personal growth information - fasting or setting high goals - surviving off coffee or alcohol - having ice baths or cold showers - then your body may feel under threat.

The thing is - the intention we have here is often to help ourselves, and each one of these things can do that if we balance it with relaxation and quiet time.

But take this - if you regularly exercise, when was the last time you sat for 5 minutes at the end to bring your nervous system back down to a safe place with some gentle deep breathing - signaling to your body that you can now land and be safe?

Too often highly anxious people often do ALL THE THINGS when in reality, doing a little less and going a bit gentler on themselves is what their nervous system needs.

Is this you?
Next time your driving in a rush, choosing a new podcast, signing up to the new fad or engaging in intense exercise, just check in with yourself about how to balance it out - you’ll thank me later 😉

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Your mind is shaping your reality, whether you realise it or not! 😬

So, here’s an example of what we can change …

❌ I’m not good enough TO
✅ I am capable of growth

❌ Things never work out for me TO
✅ Opportunities are always coming my way.

Did you know?
💥 Athletes use visualisations to enhance their performance, because imagining a workout can activate muscles ready for peak performance.

💥 Gurus and leaders emphasise manifestation and focus on goals because thoughts can influence your energy and therefore, your actions.

💥 Even within yoga and breathing exercises, visualising air flow can help to bring a body into relaxation.

So how can this work for me you say?

✨ Ever heard of the LAW OF ATTRACTION? - what you focus on expands? If you believe in success, you move towards it.

✨ Even affirmations and mantras can be a way to rewrire subconscious beliefs.

✨ Gratitude practices - shifting to abundance rather than lack.

✨ Meditation and mindfulness. - calming the mind to stay open to new possibilities.

So if you notice any self limiting, judgemental or negative beliefs in yourself or about others, just know, there is another way to shift this mindset and move towards a new pathway! One where you can feel differently about yourself and you can achieve things you never thought possible.

So whether it’s wanting to feel resilient, capable, lovable, accepted, worthy…. All are possible!

Have you ever experienced the power of your own mind? 🧠

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Friday musings….

Have you ever caught yourself thinking…

“Is this all there is?”

The same routine, the same expectation, the same conversations that don’t quite reach you anymore.
Life keeps moving, time is passing fast, but something feels…. missing.

It’s more common than you think.

Many of us reach a point where life feels like an endless cycle. From the outside, everything may look fine, but inside, there’s a quiet voice asking “is this it?”

The question isn’t a flaw. It’s not selfish, ungrateful or dramatic. It’s a signal.
A sign that you’re ready to step outside of autopilot and into something more - more aligned, more intentional, more yours.

But here’s the tricky part - more doesn’t always mean bigger. It doesn’t have to be a drastic life change or complete reset. Sometimes, it just means making space for what brings you joy, saying yes to curiosity, and allowing yourself to rewrite the rules.

So if you’ve been feeling this way, know this: you are not stuck. You are on the edge of discovery ✨

Does this resonate with you? 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♂️

If you’re on this discovery journey - please feel free to share what little or large changes have you done to bring more meaning to your days….
Maybe your comment will find the right person…

Follow @jacquelinegreencounselling for more self discovery and self growth prompts.

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Are you wondering if you’re on the right path? ✨
Do you feel like life keeps challenging you, and you don’t know how, but you just get through it? ✨
Every time you manage to find equilibrium, something else comes along? ✨
You wonder if you’re doing this ‘healing thing’ correctly? ✨

The truth is - growth isn’t always easy - but it’s always happening.

You are allowed to outgrow old versions of yourself. You are allowed to find new ways of doing life.
You are allowed to start over at any time.

I know this because I’ve been there too. Through every challenge, set back, and season of change, I’ve learned that reinvention isn’t a one time thing. - it’s a lifelong journey.

If you’re on this journey - I see you, I see how far you’ve come, I see how high your bar is getting, I see your efforts, and I see the struggle in between.
You are doing so great 💖 Keep going ✨

#youareevolving #healingisntlinear #therapistthoughts #eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #therapyjourney

You have the pretty notebooks, the motivation and the will to learn and grow, but you get stuck on what to write about and how????

If this sounds like you, then this week is for you! It’s good to have you here! 😌

On my stories (and saved to my highlights) I’m running a ‘journal with me’ week where I share intentions, prompts and learnings around how to build your own direction and intentions behind journaling. To aid your self discovery and personal growth!
It’s not too late to join so follow along if you wish 😍🤩

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Monday 17th Feb, next week, I’ll be uploading a series of: themes, guidance, suggestions, prompts and encouragement to help you in your journey to learning how to journal with intention.

Journalling is just one way of tapping into our emotional world. The aim of the week is to keep it mostly light, to help you practice in a safe way, so you can then go on and continue to deepen the topics of reflection afterwards.

So if you’ve been wanting to journal for some time, or you already do but you feel there’s a bit of a disconnect, then join me on my stories next week.

Following along and being part of this can be completely anonymous as the reflections are done in your own private time. There’s something beautiful about having anonymity, at the same time of knowing you’re part of a collective.

Be sure to share this with anyone you feel it will interest.
And feel free to share any themes that are of interest to you so I can incorporate them! 😌

@jacquelinegreencounselling Follow for updates!
Coming next Monday 17th on my stories!

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Jumping on this trend because I love the intention behind it.

I’m a fan of inner child healing and these kind of reflections are often part of a bigger healing journey.

Whatever our younger selves got up to, they got us to where we are today. And they always did the best they could, even when they didn’t know it ♥️❤️‍🩹

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Self-love isn’t just a buzzword or a passing trend – it’s a lifestyle, a commitment, and a radical act of self-respect ✨

Self-love is choosing yourself, even when it’s hard.
It’s the courage to make tough decisions that honour your well-being, even if they feel uncomfortable in the moment.
It’s setting boundaries, saying “no” when needed, and trusting that choosing your peace will always be worth it in the long run.
Sometimes, self-love means putting your needs above others – even your kids’ needs – because you can’t pour from an empty cup. You matter too.

It’s also the power of how you speak to yourself.
Self-love is ditching self-criticism and embracing words of encouragement. It’s the quiet strength to be your own biggest cheerleader, especially when no one else is watching.
You’ve got to believe in yourself before anyone else does.

Self-love is the unwavering belief that you deserve to have what’s best for you, even if that means stepping away from things or people that no longer serve you. Whether it’s switching careers, leaving a relationship, or simply taking a moment for yourself – these choices aren’t selfish, they’re acts of self-preservation.

So no, self-love isn’t a fad – it’s the foundation of living your truest, most authentic life.
It’s about trusting that the best choice for you, no matter how difficult, is the one that will allow you to flourish 🌱

You are worthy of love, respect, and kindness – especially from yourself.
Don’t let anyone (including you) tell you otherwise ❤️

#eastlothiancounselling #eastlothiancounsellor #selflove #peace #healing #counselling

📣 It’s not a you issue!
But you absolutely can change things.

A 4 minute read for your well-being.
Hope you find it helpful. Let me know!!! ☺️

Link in bio or here…

https://www.jacquelinegreencounselling.co.uk/post/burnout-why-we-re-all-exhausted-and-struggling-to-slow-down

We weren’t meant to live in this constant overdrive.
If you feel exhausted, disconnected, or like you can’t keep up - it’s not just you.

It’s the world we have been conditioned to survive in.
What ways have you been conditioned to live like this?

Here are a few messages I remember from my younger years:

- I received a 100% attendance certificate one year in school because I was rewarded and praised for not taking ‘sick days’. Rest was not encouraged.
- “You can sleep when you’re dead” messages.
- Saying No is rude.
- Keep busy and distract yourself from emotional pain.
- The push through it mentality - suppressing exhaustion, stress and illness because ‘success and strength’. But at what cost?
- Self care is an indulgence.
- Mental health struggles has stigma and less acceptance. It would be easy to take time off for a broken leg, but for a hormone imbalance or low mood or stress induced panic?

You see, our attitudes and beliefs stem from somewhere. But you can absolutely change the way you want to live.
Rest, slowness, and boundaries are a choice.

Can you relate?

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Spring is coming guys! 🌅☀️🌊

Spring evening walks are my absolute favourite and I am thrilled to have them on the horizon again!

😌

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✨

Therapy isn’t just for hard times - it’s self discovery, breaking patterns and growing into yourself.
Imagine learning the tools to navigate before the storm hits.

Therapy is a powerful place, no matter which point you enter!

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I thought it was time for an updated reintroduction to how I’m working and what services are on offer! ☺️

The last year has been a busy one - not only have I gained further qualifications, and built confidence in newer areas meaning I can offer more services, but most of my energy has been in really deepening my way of working with people.
Keeping the realness of the work I do alive.

Working in this deeper way, I have found it even more inspiring to witness people learning to hold and heal through their experiences.
Life is an enmeshment of hundreds of things - feelings, needs, context, interpretation, culture, meaning, inequalities, privilege, trauma, motivations and body.
It’s never a simple process in counselling but when I see people learn about themselves in this way, and see their transformations that come with awareness and grit, it’s truly incredible.

I’m truly grateful for the people I have worked with this last year, and excited and hopeful for some of these relationships to continue, and I’m open to new ones further down the line.

If you’re interested in working with me, feel free to make contact and secure a space on my wait list!

Lastly, if you think my services would be helpful to anyone you know, please show some love and share or tag. 🥰

Follow my page for regular reflections and inspiration for thought @jacquelinegreencounselling

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If you grew up with the message that “moaning” about your problems is a sign of weakness, or that it’s better to just “get on with it,” you’re not alone.

Many of us were taught that facing difficulties alone was a badge of honour, and that talking about our feelings or struggles was somehow burdensome to others.
But here’s the thing: bottling it all up doesn’t make you strong. It just makes everything heavier in the long run.

Therapy can feel like an intimidating step if you’ve never been encouraged to speak up about your mental health. But here’s the truth - when you start to open up, whether in therapy or with those you trust, it does make a difference. It’s the first step towards understanding yourself better and releasing the weight you’ve been carrying for too long.

Speaking your truth is not moaning. It’s not complaining. It’s about connecting with yourself and others in a way that can bring clarity, understanding, and healing.
We all deserve a space where we can express what we’re going through without judgment, especially when life feels overwhelming.

So, if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, know this: it’s OK to talk about your problems.
You don’t have to face everything alone, and there’s no shame in reaching out for support.
Starting the conversation could be the very thing that helps you move forward.

Give yourself permission to speak, to be heard, and to heal.

@eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #therapy #counselling #healing #speakyourtruth

Maybe you don’t recognise your own progress, because you keep raising your bar…. 🤔😯

We’re all guilty of this, aren’t we?
Always striving for more, chasing the next goal, and forgetting to look back at how far we’ve come.
It’s easy to get caught in the hustle, but you’ve made so much progress already.

I had a moment yesterday - it was like a lightbulb moment - where I realised something was happening in my life that I had always wanted, or strived for.
But this goal was so subconscious, one I hadn’t really noted down or forced, so it’s taken me ages to see it.
Sometimes, growth isn’t obvious.

It’s the small wins, the quiet changes, the little victories that matter. So take a moment today to reflect and celebrate how far you’ve come.

Heres some ideas how…

✨ Write down your achievements (big or small). Keep a list ongoing.
✨ Reflect on where you were six months ago and how past you would feel about where you’re at now.
✨ Celebrate your wins, even the small ones. Any small or large celebration counts!

You are making progress, even if you don’t always see it.

Keep going — but don’t forget to look back and give yourself credit for all that you’ve already achieved 🌟

I’ve spent the last week in the alps where everything is quieter, and the snow brings about a softer and slower pace. Snow can really distract us from the overwhelm of life with its calm energy.

But life moves so quickly doesn’t it, and it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and overwhelm, pushing our true feelings aside.

It’s easy to say ‘I’m fine’ or ‘getting there’ or ‘tired’. Simple dismissing statements like this push us in a place of disconnection.

But sometimes, all we need is a moment to pause and reflect on what’s going on inside.
This can be through little moments in your week, slow evening routines, journalling, while doing a hobby or being creative, or even during some planned self reflection time.
Another way, is through counselling.

Counselling is not just about talking - it’s about connecting with yourself in a way that brings clarity and peace.

Opening up to someone can help untangle the thoughts and emotions that feel too big to manage on your own. We’ve all been there I’m sure.

When we share what’s truly on our minds with someone who listens without judgment, it allows us to process, heal, and grow.

If you’ve been carrying something inside, remember - it’s okay to seek support.
You don’t have to navigate everything alone.

Sometimes, a conversation can be the start of something life-changing.

I’m back from annual leave now and I have 1 space coming available in a couple of weeks for someone wanting to start their therapy journey.

#eastlothiancounselling #eastlothiancounsellor #connection #healing #personaldevelopment

Thinking about having some counseling? Or keep putting it off? Here’s some things to consider…

Counselling is a powerful tool for personal growth, but it’s natural to have questions or reservations.
Here are a few reflections that might help:

✨ Investment in yourself – Therapy isn’t just a cost; it’s an investment in your future self. It’s a chance to heal, grow, and show up fully in life. I understand the cost can be a large investment, often meaning you lose out on something else, but if it’s a possibility for you, it may be the most worthwhile investment for you this year!

⏰ Making time and space – Prioritise your well-being. Therapy isn’t an add-on—it’s an essential part of self-care. Schedule it like any other important commitment. An available space may not be at the most convenient time but employers can be very forgiving with a scheduled health appointments so feel free to always consider!

💭 Emotional clarity – Therapy helps you make sense of your thoughts and feelings, leading to greater clarity and better decision-making in your day-to-day life. Clarity is essential to be able to engage in the world differently.

🔄 Sustainable change – The work you do today creates the foundation for lasting change. Therapy isn’t just about coping—it’s about evolving. Just like any sort of change in life, it needs more than a quick fix.

💪 Trust in yourself – You already have the strength within you to make meaningful change. Therapy is just the guide to help you unlock it. Trust yourself—you’ve got this. Whether it’s working out if online suits you, choosing the right counsellor, or trying something new in therapy - you can do this!

Taking the first step can be the hardest part because it often requires us to work through the hesitations.
If you have any questions at all about starting therapy, feel free to dm me or ask away in the comments.

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Watching these geese migrate earlier today reminded me that life is a continuous journey, not always a linear path towards a fixed destination 🕊️

Therapy can feel like that too.

Sometimes, the “end goal” you initially set may shift or become irrelevant as you grow and evolve 🌱
And that’s okay.

As many of my clients are learning, therapy is about learning to embrace the present moment, cultivate self-awareness, and develop the skills to navigate whatever life brings our way 💫
It’s about finding peace and fulfillment in the journey itself, and being open to what that means, rather than solely focusing on reaching a fictitious ‘perfect point’.

If you’re ready to embrace the journey of self-discovery, I’m here to support you.

1 space has become available on Wednesday afternoon, so do get in touch if this speaks to you.

#counselling #eastlothiancounsellint #eastlothiancounsellor #therapy #journeynotdestination #selfdiscovery

✨ Intentions aren’t about improvement; they’re about accepting and aligning with your wonderful self✨

Have you heard of the pressure to always grow and be ‘better’? To always be your best self?
Then hearing this may help you relieve some of these conditions we hear, because intentions are NOT this pressure.

The most powerful shift you can make is in recognising who you are right now, in this chapter of your life, and setting intentions that help you live more in alignment with that.

It’s about being kind to yourself, trusting your journey, and creating a life that feels true to you, not a fantasy version of yourself 🌱

So, take a moment today to reflect:

What intentions will help you embrace the person you are today, with all your strengths, quirks, and growth areas?

Remember, it’s not about changing who you are - it’s about honouring yourself and stepping into your own power💛

#settingintentions #intentionallyliving #acceptance #healing #eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling

As we step into 2025, it’s easy to get swept up in the buzz of “New Year, New Me” messaging.
But here’s a little secret: Your journey is yours to create🌿🌱

Instead of focusing on what we think we “should” change or achieve this year, let’s take a moment to pause and reflect on the how and why of our intentions, rather than just the what.

✨ Intentions vs Resolutions
Unlike resolutions, which often feel like rigid promises to be ‘better’, intentions are rooted in possibility, growth, and authenticity.
Instead of aiming for an impossible ‘new you’, ask yourself: How do I want to feel this year?
✨ A simple practice: Close your eyes for a moment and visualise how you want to feel in the months ahead—calm, empowered, grounded, connected?
Let those feelings be the foundation for your intentions, and let them guide your choices every day.

✨ Reflecting on the year gone by!
Before we rush ahead, let’s honour the year we’re leaving behind.
What moments of growth or transformation did you experience?
What did you learn from the challenges?
Reflection isn’t about what you didn’t do, but about celebrating what you did, and understanding how it shapes the path forward.
✍️ A tip: Grab a journal and write down three key lessons or moments from 2024 that have shaped you.
Reflect on how they’ve made you stronger, wiser, and more aligned with your true self.

✨ Aligning with your truth, not society’s!
In a world that often tells us what success should look like, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters to us. This year, you can get clear on what feels authentic to you - what really resonates with your values and what brings you peace.
😌A grounding exercise: Sit in stillness for a few minutes and ask yourself, “What do I truly want for myself in 2025? Let your inner voice speak louder than the noise around you.

Remember, that you are enough, you don’t need a new you. Living with intentions is freeing, yet powerful!

Take a moment to reflect on your intentions - feel free to share what’s coming up for you, I’d love to hear what’s coming up for you 💬

#eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling #settingintentions #livingintentionally #acceptance #alignment

As we step into the New Year, it’s easy to feel the weight of “New Year, New Me” messaging.

Society often pressures us to overhaul our lives, chasing perfection or unattainable ideals.
But let me gently challenge that narrative: You don’t need to become a completely “new” version of yourself.
You are already enough. ❤️

Instead of setting rigid resolutions that often lead to frustration, and feelings of failure, let’s focus on intentions.
Intentions allow us to reflect on what truly matters, to grow in alignment with our values, and to nurture our well-being.
They invite self-awareness and compassion into the process, rather than pressure and self-criticism.

This week, I’ll be exploring what it means to set meaningful intentions, including;  🌿 The difference between intentions and resolutions 🌿 How to reflect on the year that’s passed 🌿 Ways to identify what aligns with you, not society’s expectations 🌿 Practical steps to set intentions you can actually live by

Let’s step into 2024 with purpose and kindness—not by chasing impossible goals, but by grounding ourselves in what feels authentic 🌟

I’d love to hear your thoughts 💬 so let me know in the comments 🥰

#newyearnewme #alignment #intentionsetting #livingintentionally #authenticity #eastlothiancounsellor #eastlothiancounselling

As we close out the year, remember that your journey is unique, and you are complete just as you are.
The holidays can bring reflection, but you don’t have to measure yourself against any ideal.

Here’s to embracing where you are in life, right now.
Wishing you peace and self-compassion over the holiday period.

See you soon 😌
Jacques

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A small reflection for those on their journey to self awareness, self love, and authenticity ♥️

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